confessions of a fashion backwards gal

What is left of the old cement factory in Bamberton that blew up...

Mon, 27 Aug 2012 01:14:00 -0400

What is left of the old cement factory in Bamberton that blew up years and years ago.

In a Perfect World.

Tue, 21 Aug 2012 01:59:15 -0400

In a perfect world my closest friend would not be right; we’d be talking right now, texting madly instead of ignoring each other.

In a perfect world I would not have had a fight with my friend before stumbling angerly off to sleep with you.

In a perfect world, I’d come out and actually say the words: I never knew you’d be the one I want and even if you’re just the flavour of the year I want to see where this leads…

In a perfect world, I’d admit that what I feel is more than mere adoration.

Willows Beach, Victoria BC

Mon, 13 Aug 2012 21:15:49 -0400

Willows Beach, Victoria BC

To Settle

Mon, 13 Aug 2012 20:28:18 -0400

To settle is to feel OBLIGATED to be with someone. I had this epiphany today while driving home from work.

Let’s back up a little, why am I so concerned with this idea of settling, versus living? It’s simple a friend mentioned that to love me would be to settle; imagine my chagrin at this idea. Me?! I would be “settling”?!?

At first I was just pissed, angry if you will. Thankfully when I am angry I am usually fairly happy with hurting myself and the strained wrist and sprained ankle speaks for its self (never hike on a hot day, without enough water or a properly stocked first aid kit) - but as always, I digress.

Settling. What an ugly word. It’s very nature is to suggest there is something better but what you have is “okay” and because your self-esteem is lacking you’ll take what’s there. On that note, I should thank my friend for his decision to step away from “falling for” me, because I’d hate for him to feel stuck later.

I don’t see my friend as settling for quiet a few reasons the first of which: I am not obligated to adore him, but I do. I am not obligated to see him or spend time with him, but I do, because its the highlight of my day.

I settled for my Ex. I believed he was right when he made me feel financially bound to him, and so negative about myself that he was the best I could do. I felt obligated to stick with something that was detrimental to my physical and emotional health. Would I go back? God, no! Because never again will I settle.

The real question now is to decide whether to move past my friends comment or to move on and leave him sputtering and spitting in the dust of my departure.

are2: I have the power By the power of Grey Skull!

Sat, 11 Aug 2012 08:18:21 -0400

are2:

I have the power

By the power of Grey Skull!

are2: Satellite Beautiful

Mon, 06 Aug 2012 10:51:42 -0400

are2:

Satellite

Beautiful

Sometimes I get a great photo, by accident.

Sat, 04 Aug 2012 17:21:24 -0400

Sometimes I get a great photo, by accident.

People would tell me, ‘You’ll grow out of being a wild guy,’...

Sat, 04 Aug 2012 17:15:01 -0400

People would tell me, ‘You’ll grow out of being a wild guy,’ and I’d just laugh. - Robert Downey Jr

Oh stay a Bad Guy, please?!

James Bay, Victoria BC

Thu, 26 Jul 2012 00:34:47 -0400

James Bay, Victoria BC

Walking in James Bay, Victoria BC

Thu, 26 Jul 2012 00:34:21 -0400

Walking in James Bay, Victoria BC

Butterfly Gardens Victoria BC

Thu, 26 Jul 2012 00:33:46 -0400

Butterfly Gardens Victoria BC

Photo

Thu, 26 Jul 2012 00:33:28 -0400

Photo

Thu, 26 Jul 2012 00:33:07 -0400

The List

Sat, 21 Jul 2012 14:27:05 -0400

Everyone in the dating arena should have one,but how many of us actually sit down to produce a list of the ten most apealing qualities we are seeking in a life partner?

I’ve been working on mine for a while and it is a frustrating task. Not only because I don’t want to “pigeon hole” anyone in my life right now into fitting “the list” - I do have a safety net, if “the list” when finished, closely mirrors my kindred spirit (yes, Anne of Green Ganles moment), best friend and confidant then the list is perfect.

Yes, Helen Murphy Lake in Strathcona Park. I’m here and...

Sat, 14 Jul 2012 13:21:45 -0400

Yes, Helen Murphy Lake in Strathcona Park. I’m here and loving it!

Lessons for Leadership

Fri, 29 Jun 2012 13:11:12 -0400

Lessons for Leadership

are2: But here’s what really happened Awesome!! I need these...

Fri, 01 Jun 2012 01:33:18 -0400

are2:

But here’s what really happened

Awesome!! I need these for the first aid backpack. I think kids would cry less when they scrap their knees.

Look Ma! A Shark Bite!!

Bawhahaha!!

Fri, 01 Jun 2012 01:31:30 -0400

Bawhahaha!!

www.sustainableu.ca

Fri, 01 Jun 2012 01:23:14 -0400

www.sustainableu.ca

Streamzoo, is the app and here is photo 2… A different...

Fri, 01 Jun 2012 01:22:18 -0400

Streamzoo, is the app and here is photo 2… A different look at the tea latté